IS YOUR ANGER MANAGING YOU?

Many who are court ordered or who volunteer for an Anger Management Class think they are going to be taught how to “not get angry”. Some have been taught that anger is a bad thing and have felt shame over their angry feelings.

The truth is that anger is one of many emotions that comprise being a human being. We can’t eliminate anger any more than we can get rid of “joy”, “jealousy”, “grief” or any of the feelings we have. The purpose of an Anger Management Course is to learn a new way to express anger that doesn’t harm ourselves or others.

Anger is neither good nor bad, it is just a feeling.
It is only when we get carried away by it and behave against our best interest, that change is needed. Our anger can negatively impact our health, relationships, careers and our enjoyment of life. Those who express their anger with aggression or violence can end a marriage, lose a job, be incarcerated or even commit murder.

Ask yourself what makes you angry. Do you know? One of the most prevalent triggers is stress. Do you know what your stressors are? Are you aware of your stress level? It is important that you have ways to minimize stress before it causes problems for you.

Triggers can be from the stress of today but are often from past experiences. How did your parents express anger? Were you allowed to express your anger as a child? Were you ever punished for getting angry? Were you abused? Have you spent countless years holding in your angry feelings?

It is our responsibility to manage our feelings and not blame them on other people or outside forces. Attending Anger Management Classes is an effective way to relinquish your shame and be in charge of your anger.

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