Confessions of a modern day mom- Handling stress and anger
Being apart of Day Break services anger management program has really opened my eyes to anger and anger management. As a wife, mother, student, business owner, and active member of my church, I could feel a change in my reactions to different situations and a change in my levels of stress. Having such a busy schedule and a new baby making me a mommy of 3 is overwhelming at times and my mood and the way I respond seemed to be more aggressive.
As parents our job is never ending at times and things can get quite stressful. What I’ve been learning is that anger is normal and is a part of life and that handling anger is a challenge for many people. I’m learning the difference between being stressed and being stressed out. Stress is just a bodily response to life demands. When stress gets to a point where we find it hard to cope and become too overwhelmed we can enter into a state of being stressed out. Being stressed out can cause so many problems for our bodies, emotionally, medically, and physically. As a wife and mom of 3 I don’t need anymore extra things to take care of so being stressed out is out of the question. I went immediately home after class and started writing things out.
Recognizing the signs is the first step to dealing with stress. Because of the information and understanding of my own behaviors and emotions I can begin to make changes in my life to decrease some of my stress, which is step 2. Now that I understand more of what is causing my aggression and learning how to communicate my emotions to the people around me so that I am not as aggressive has made handling my daily life more manageable.
Just in the last two weeks the information and helpful tools have helped not only me, but my family as well. I’m teaching my kids how to handle anger by handling my own anger properly. I thought that anger management was mainly for people who couldn’t control their anger and I now see that anger management is for everyone. Knowing how to respond to anger and how to understand your own behaviors and emotions is very beneficial.
Crystal Payton -Wilson Gee, Intern
Daybreak Counseling Service