Anger is a complex emotion. Anger can be both positive and negative. It is a positive emotion when it motivates us to protect ourselves from harm and helps us defend ourselves from outside attacks. It is a natural emotion that all humans experience, whether you are, a child, teenager or an adult. What we do with this emotion is crucial to our well being. If we act out our anger and become overly aggressive with others this becomes a negative expression of our anger and can have harmful effects on our relationships and our health. However, if we are able to channel our anger in a more appropriate, adult-like response, then we are able to communicate effectively what are feelings are and set boundaries for the things that we are willing to expect and those that are unacceptable. But how do we go about learning how to become more in control of our anger?

TRIGGERS

The first step in using anger management techniques and perhaps the most important one is to understand and know what our triggers are. What makes you angry, what makes you feel disrespected, neglected, abandoned, left out, taken for granted? All of these emotions can trigger angry feelings because anger is not just one emotion; it is a family of many emotions.

IMPLICIT MEMORY

Step two in anger management is to learn to respond to others rather than react. How do we do this? We must first develop self-awareness by practicing step one but beyond that we must learn to resolve our “implicit memories.” Implicit memories are those that have been developed in early life-infancy through adolescences. These memories are deeply rooted. The implicit memory system establishes the foundation of our character. Implicit memory is made up of unconscious emotional patters that help us relate to ourselves and others. It’s the kind of memory we access without thinking.

ANGER AND YOUR BRAIN

Our emotional center of our brain is housed in the limbic system. The limbic system is composed of many parts but the most important to us, as we learn more about anger management therapy, are the amygdala and the hippocampus. The amygdala is activated by catecholamines such as adrenaline which activates our aggression. The hippocampus is where our long term memories are stored so that these two together act to stimulate our “implicit memories.” Therefore, because of implicit memory we might feel triggered by a certain person or event and not be consciously aware, at first, that we are angry but due our limbic system our pent up emotions are acted out once again. Until we are able to heal our core wound by going back and finishing what was left incomplete in our development, we run the risk of experiencing chronic and painful problems with those we love the most as well as in our professional/working environments. Healing our core wounds is how we resolve our implicit memories associated with anger, and how we begin to see the possibility of choice in our lives.

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A new docu-series is looking for people who are struggling with an issue that is taking over their lives. Whether you are addicted to plastic surgery or have anger management issues, we want to hear from you. Our experts will investigate the root of the problem and construct a plan to help you gain control of your life.

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Is it true that uncontrolled anger can lead to weight gain? Studies have taken place on this issue, from such highly regarded sources as the American Heart Association. Though initial studies have focused on teenagers, all ages are at risk for excessive weight gain directly resulting from uncontrolled anger.

Why does this happen? Usually because the person is experiencing high distress and is choosing to suppress natural feelings of anger rather than confront them. Someone that suppresses his or her feelings, or has explosive bouts of unrestrained anger, is actually at a higher risk for weight gain than emotionally healthy individuals.

Problems with anger can convert into various eating disorders and increased weight. Increased weight can lead to a high risk of cardiovascular disease. The University of Texas sponsored an investigation on the issue, which eventually indicated that there was a strong association between body mass index and internalized anger, particularly in teenagers.

The problem is that people who suffer from anger issues usually have no idea how to approach this problem. They resort to unhealthy coping mechanisms-such as rage or overeating-without ever confronting the problem itself. Some younger people may retreat to television or video games instead of focusing on a productive solution. Older individuals may have a similar “vice” that they seek out rather than acknowledge their feelings of anger and expressing themselves in healthy ways.

In situations like this, it’s not merely a matter of regular diet and exercise. It’s about getting to the root of a person’s problem and helping them back on the road to emotional health. If you are experiencing problems with anger and are suffering from related weight gain symptoms or other physical symptoms, then get help. Why battle this dilemma alone when you can have others working with you and rooting you on?

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I got a call yesterday from a young lady who wanted some advice. It seems her ex-boyfriend was ordered 52 weeks of anger management classes and he had missed the deadline for enrolling. She wanted to know how she could make him take a class, and she was willing to pay for it. Do you see anything wrong with this picture?

As a business owner I informed her I would gladly take her money but as an adviser I informed her paying for your ex-boyfreind’s anger management course tells me more about your state of mind than your boyfriend’s.

In short you can’t make anyone get help. Learning to deal with their anger has to be a personal, deliberate decision. If the loss of a relationship and a couple of days in jail does not convince them they need help there is not much anyone else can do.

On occassion I am ask to call the individual, the caller asks, (usually female) “Can you talk to him? Maybe you can make him go”. To quote a famous buddhist proverb, “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear”. In other words I am not calling your husband. They need to call me.

Now don’t get me wrong, there are a few things you can do to spark introspection and encourage personal responsiblity.

Don’t stand in the way of natural consequences

If your significant other or teenage child is facing a layoff, criminal charges or expulsion because of their aggressive behavior don’t enable them by standing in the way of these natural consequences. Sometimes the quickest way to healing is the realization that you are in pain.

Set boundaries

When you take a passive stance regarding a loved one’s anger they have no incentive to change. If you are a victim of verbal or physical aggression you must let the perpetrator know through word and deed that their behavior is not acceptable. This may means witholding affection (sex), calling the police, or leaving the relationship all together.

In conclusion one of the best ways to ensure your boyfreind or husband gets help is to make sure you have a firm sense of value of yourself. No one should allow themselves to be exposed to a prolonged dose of bitterness, contempt and aggression. You deserve better.

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Many people, in an effort to be “nice” or to avoid confrontation, allow others to call the shots. They give their power away by allowing others to exert their will over them and end up controlled by the expectations and decisions of another.

Although this is what some believe is the easy way to handle relationships or stay conflict-free, they pay a very high price both mentally and emotionally. Their self-esteem dwindles and they become very angry.

Feeling of powerlessness and resentment ensue when they realize that they are no longer driving their own bus. They have turned the wheel over to others to manage their lives for them and they become even more angry.

They greatly resent others who are making choices and decisions for them without realizing that they have given their decision to allow it.

If they are fortunate, there will be an occasion in which they will realize what they are doing that keeps them angry and shamed. It will not be easy for them to take back control of their lives. It is challenging and often scary to change behaviors and become more assertive. It is almost impossible to do on one’s own, so asking for help is important.

Help can come in the form of therapy, an anger management course or confiding in a trusted person who can give feedback and offer suggestions.

As these former “people pleasers” become more assertive and self-empowered by taking back control of their lives from others, they gratefully find out that their shame and anger are no longer an issue. An added bonus is that they are more respected and valued by themselves and others.

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• UNABLE TO EXPRESS ANGRY FEELINGS (HOLDING ANGER IN)
• BEING EXHAUSTED
• FAMILY
• SCHOOL
• DIFFICULTY WITH TIME MANAGEMENT
• TRAFFIC
• TOO MUCH RESPONSIBILITY
• ANGER ABOUT THINGS OVER WHICH YOU HAVE NO CONTROL
• FINANCIAL PROBLEMS
• FEELING HELPLESS OR HOPELESS
• TOO MANY ASSIGNMENTS OR TASKS TO DO AT ONCE
• BEING KEPT WAITING
• BEING IGNORED OR DISMISSED
• BEING DISRESPECTED
• LOUD/AGGRESSIVE PEOPLE
• BEING YELLED AT
• BEING RIDICULED OR MADE FUN OF
• BEING SICK
• BEING CRITIZED
• FEELING OVERWHELMED
• FEELING MISUNDERSTOOD
• BEING HURT
• OTHERS OVERSTEPPING THEIR BOUNDARIES WITH YOU
• BEING LIED TO
• NOT SPEAKING UP FOR YOURSELF
• NEED TO BE “RIGHT”

Since “stress” is a compelling trigger for anger, it is important for you to be able to identify your own personal “stressors”. Then – find an activity or enterprise that can lower your stress level. Anger Management classes offer excellent information and tools to discover what stresses you out and what you can do about it.

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A man of Iranian decent was was arraigned in a Santa Ana court on Thursday. He is accused of attacking two Latino men. He is being prosecuted for a hate crime. The California Penal code suggests some perpetrators of hate crimes be ordered to enroll in anger management classes or racial tolerance classes.

The 31 year old Irvine man is faced with two felony and two misdemeanor charges. He is accused of getting out of his car at a traffic light and swinging a metal chain a car of the two Latino men. The altercation may have been spurred because he was involved a separate disagreement with another Latino man in a movie theater.

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We are the change that we seek -Barack Obama

Many people join an anger management class with a secret hidden agenda. So secret they may not be aware of it themselves. They are looking for a formula, a potion, a spell that will change those people in their lives. What people you may ask? Those people they can not control, those people that just won’t comply no matter how loud we yell, no matter how hard we kick or how long we pout.

The fact of the matter is you are the change you seek. You can not control other people. You can not control them through intimidation, through coercion or through manipulation. If you are honest with yourself you know its hard enough contolling yourself.

When meeting with Kim Kardashian and Khole Kardashian on the Reality Television show Keeping up with the Kardashians I noticed Khole was stuck on changing her “brother in law” Scott Disick. Khloe finally got it when I explained to her she would never be able to controll Scott but she does have the power to control how she reacts to him. Guess what you have that same power. You do not have to respond to every uncomfortable stimuli brought on by you job, family or significant other. You are not a puppet. You have the power to change how you react to negative people and negative situations. You also have the power to avoid some people and some situations all together. You are the change you seek.

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Shannon Munford, the owner of Daybreak Counseling Service has thrown his hat in the ring to be Oprah’s Next Television Star. Oprah and reality TV super producer Mark Burnett (SurvivorTM & The ApprenticeTM) are joining forces in search of the next big TV star.

Shannon is an anger management expert. For the last 10 years he has worked with Celebrities and CEO’s to help them manage anger and aggression. Shannon is the Chief Executive Officer at Daybreak Counseling Service. He owns and operates four Los Angeles based offices that provide anger management education to families, individuals and groups.

Shannon has made television appearances on Keeping up with the Kardashian in which he worked with Kim Kardashian and Khloe Kardashian. Shannon also appeared on MTV Real World Hollywood in which he staged an anger management intervention. Some of his off camera work was with Bad Girl Club Season 3 and My Network TV Decision House.

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Getting to know your self (what makes you tick) is a worthwhile and emotionally smart endeavor. Taking a journey inside ourselves can be fearsome but can be enlightening and rewarding.

This is especially important when it comes to our emotions. What makes us happy? Sad? Excited? What makes us angry?

Many of us are blindsided by our feelings or don’t know how to process or manage them. This can result in us being “run” by our feelings, not having any control of them. This can be dangerous when it comes to feelings of anger.

Many anger management clients have let their feelings get the better of them with negative results. They have jeopardized their relationships, job or sometimes their freedom.

Knowing what your “triggers” are is important. Simply – “what makes you angry”? Some of us hate to wait in lines. Some are angered by injustice. Many people say they get angry when disrespected or ignored. Others can get enraged by traffic or an inconsiderate neighbor. Everyone is different. Our triggers are usually the results of our upbringing and life experience.

If we know our anger triggers we can avoid certain situations. We can take a positive action and be better prepared to manage our anger. Someone I know was angry with her friend for always being late picking her up for the movies. She took a positive action. Since she was tired of missing the first 15 minutes of every film they saw, she told her friend that she would take her own car. If you are a “road rager” you can allow for more time to get to your destination. If waiting in line at the DMV gets to you, bring your computer or a book.

Paying attention to your triggers affords you the knowledge and ability to better manage your anger. Another benefit is that you might get angry less often.

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