Anger Management Tip- Know your tirggers

Getting to know your self (what makes you tick) is a worthwhile and emotionally smart endeavor. Taking a journey inside ourselves can be fearsome but can be enlightening and rewarding.

This is especially important when it comes to our emotions. What makes us happy? Sad? Excited? What makes us angry?

Many of us are blindsided by our feelings or don’t know how to process or manage them. This can result in us being “run” by our feelings, not having any control of them. This can be dangerous when it comes to feelings of anger.

Many anger management clients have let their feelings get the better of them with negative results. They have jeopardized their relationships, job or sometimes their freedom.

Knowing what your “triggers” are is important. Simply – “what makes you angry”? Some of us hate to wait in lines. Some are angered by injustice. Many people say they get angry when disrespected or ignored. Others can get enraged by traffic or an inconsiderate neighbor. Everyone is different. Our triggers are usually the results of our upbringing and life experience.

If we know our anger triggers we can avoid certain situations. We can take a positive action and be better prepared to manage our anger. Someone I know was angry with her friend for always being late picking her up for the movies. She took a positive action. Since she was tired of missing the first 15 minutes of every film they saw, she told her friend that she would take her own car. If you are a “road rager” you can allow for more time to get to your destination. If waiting in line at the DMV gets to you, bring your computer or a book.

Paying attention to your triggers affords you the knowledge and ability to better manage your anger. Another benefit is that you might get angry less often.

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