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Workshop: The Angry Black Woman

Wednesday, July 29th, 2009
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Angry Black Woman

Nakeyshaey M. Allen has invited you to the event ‘Workshop on “Exploring the Angry Black Woman (ABW) Syndrome: Understanding the Stereotypes and Myths around Anger and Black Women”‘ on Ask the Hip-Hop Therapist™!

Check out “Workshop on “Exploring the Angry Black Woman (ABW) Syndrome: Understanding the Stereotypes and Myths around Anger and Black Women”" on Ask the Hip-Hop Therapist™

Nakeyshaey M. Allen

Time: August 26, 2009 from 9:30am to 12:30pm
Location: The Office of the Hip-Hop Therapist™
Organized By: Nakeyshaey M. Allen, The Hip-Hop Therapist™

Event Description:
Why are Black women so angry? That is a question that is often asked, but never fully answered and/or understood. Often associated with this question is “The Angry Black Woman Syndrome (ABWS)”. The ABWS is described as a negative stereotype that often misrepresents Black women. It is true that an ABW can be identified by her attitude, conversation, and body language; but the myths and stereotypes associated with the ABWS often marginalizes Black women from being taken seriously.

This workshop will critically explore the ABWS, and the myths and stereotypes that are associated with it. The focus will be on the following objectives:

* To explore the emotion “anger” as it relates to Black
women.

* To review the ideology of the Angry Black Woman
Syndrome.

* To explore the myths and stereotypes associated
with anger and Black women.

* To develop coping skills and strategies for Black
women when it comes to dealing with their anger.

This workshop includes 3 CEU’s for LCSWs and LMFTs. A light continental brunch will also be provided. Please register for this workshop at http://www.thehiphoptherapist.com/ClassSchedule.html. For more information about this workshop, please call the REALTalk Enterprises at 323-901-6555.

See more details and RSVP on Ask the Hip-Hop Therapist™:

http://askthehiphoptherapist.ning.com/events/event/show?id=3187322%3AEvent%3A747&xgi=dqr0rGi

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Anger management meltdown 35,000 feet

Wednesday, July 29th, 2009
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James Allen Cameron a 50 year old Anaheim resident recieve a conviction Monday for disruptive and assualtive behavior on a flight from Hong Kong to LAX (and we were just getting making progress with the Chineese)

Mr. Cameron was accused of striking a flight attendent and off duty pilot. He became verbally abusive after a few drinks and forced the crew to tie him to his seat with duct tape, seat bets and handcuffs.

Mr. Cameron could face a maximum prison sentence of 20 years but will most likely get probation and a trip to a local anger management class.

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BREAKTHROUGH with TONY ROBBINS

Wednesday, July 22nd, 2009
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tony robbins

Hi Shannon,

Thanks for taking the time to hear about our new program, “Breakthrough with Tony Robbins”. Scheduled to air this fall on NBC, the 8 episode series will help incredible people “breakthrough” a variety of psychological, emotional and physical problems that are causing challenges in the lives of someone. For one entire episode, we’d like to offer the support and resources needed to a teenager in turmoil and their family torn apart by the problem at hand. Desperate for the guidance needed to help their teen regain their confidence and reclaim their dreams, our program will offer a once in a lifetime opportunity to work with famed life strategist Tony Robbins and offer incredible experiences that will bring this family back together again. a

For the program, we are looking to secure an entire family unit that would be open to their struggles being documented. Throughout the course of the time spent on the program, Tony Robbins would explore the teens behavior with both the teenager and his/her parents. We do not and are not promoting this process as any sort of treatment, it’s simply to help motivate the family and teenager to tell their story and champion them towards identifying the best course of treatment. Sort-of-like, F/X’s “Intervention”, after exploring the challenge at hand, our intent is to offer them the resources needed to move on and improve the quality of their life.

During our program, the teenager will have the opportunity to go on a once in a lifetime adventure with their family, bond with their family unit and explore the reasons why they may have lost their focus. Like our previous television series, “Extreme Makeover – Home Edition”, our mission is to create an award winning program that will be suitable for families to watch together, learn more about themselves and the challenges of others. Like “Extreme Makeover – Home Edition” we wish to tell the stories of individuals struggling that will make audience cheer them on and want them to claim the best life possible for themselves and their family.

As this process of being documented and having their story broadcast across the US suitable for only specific persons, we are looking for individuals that may see this as a positive opportunity and vehicle for themselves and their family. We take every precaution necessary to ensure the process will be a positive experience for candidates by conducting a psychological evaluation, a medical screening and a thorough background investigation. For our purposes, will not feature any candidates that have been suicidal at any point and time. Candidates must also, never have been hospitalized for any psychological matter and must not have ever been convicted of any charges related to physical violence.

I appreciate you taking the time to be so helpful. As you can imagine, the process of identifying an appropriate candidate is very challenging. If you or any interested families have any further questions, please contact myself directly as soon as possible. We are looking to identify a family with a teenager in crises by Tuesday, July 28th. Below, I have pasted a copy of our press release concerning our program.

Best wishes,

Quintin

Quintin Strack
Casting Director
Breakthrough with Tony Robbins
1000 N Seward St
Bldg 28
Los Angeles, CA 90038
323-860-8612 – office
213-618-9565 – cell

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ARE YOU GIVING ME ATTITUDE?

Thursday, July 9th, 2009
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attitude adjustment

I find that at any given moment my emotions and behaviors are directly affected by my “attitude”. And – my attitude is informed by my thoughts and how I am feeling about myself. I awaken with a good feeling and with a low stress level. I meditate which always starts my day off with a good attitude. I look forward to the day and I am at peace.
I get into my car and drive to a job that I love. So far – so good. At the last stoplight before I arrive at work a car speeds in front of me and comes to a dead stop. I nearly rear end him. Needless to say, I am no longer at peace. I am angry at the other driver. I want to beep my horn, make a gesture or get out of the car and scream at him. I decide to let it go, but my attitude has worsened.

My workday goes well until my employer asks me into his office. He tells me that my work has been substandard and that I need to do better. This affects my self- esteem and I feel ashamed and angry. I no longer feel good about myself. I am developing a worse attitude.

Then I take out my anger on my fellow workers. When they ask me to join them for lunch I sarcastically say: “Really? You want me to join you for those really healthy cheeseburgers and greasy fries? I am going to stay at my desk and eat a salad.”
I am feeling more shame and discomfort because I know I am being rude and nasty.
When I arrive home my son asks me to help him with his homework and I angrily say: “You know I am really sick of being asked for help. Try doing it on your own for a change.”

I have reached ground zero. I now feel like a big jerk and take my anger out on myself by getting depressed. How did I end the day with such a negative attitude? How could this have gone differently? I reviewed the day.

The car that cut me out at the light wasn’t out to “get me”, he was just a bad driver. I didn’t have to take it personally. When my boss reprimanded me he wasn’t trying to humiliate or hurt me. He did deserve a better performance from me. My ego was affected. I didn’t have to let this happen. My coworkers didn’t need to be the butt of my anger. Treating them the way I did made me feel ashamed of myself. When I arrived home I let out my accumulated rage on my son, which he didn’t deserve. More shame.
Had I been paying attention to my new behavior skills (which I usually do) I could have had a good day regardless of what others said or did. Had I not drifted back into “perfectionism”, I would have accepted making mistakes. Had I not allowed my boss to crush my self-esteem, I would have felt better about myself. And – had I not been too rushed to meditate (as I do every morning) I would not have been so susceptible to others “making me feel bad”. I would have kept the good feeling about myself with which I started the day and would have had the confidence and serenity to hold on to my personal power and manage my anger in a way that did not hurt me or others.

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27 signs that your anger management course is working for you.

Monday, July 6th, 2009
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• You wake up with more of a feeling of well being
• You have less headaches, anxiety and stomach problems
• Your self esteem is better and on the rise
• Your relationships are less strained
• You find yourself arguing less with others
• You smile more and feel happier
• You’re less stressed and know how to handle stress when it does comes up
• You are more courteous and kind to others.
• You feel more confident and comfortable around others
• You don’t have to deal with guilt/shame as much as you used to
• You feel less lonely and more connected to people
• You are able to apologize when necessary
• You become aware that more people are drawn to you
• You are more interested in others and have a desire to be of service to them
• You are more positive and want only positive people around you
• You are more open-minded and more able to learn new things
• You are less judgmental of yourself and others
• You are more accepting of yourself and others
• You no longer seek the impossibility of “perfection”
• You engage in healthier activities that are good for you
• You value and respect yourself much more
• What others say or do is less important to you
• You no longer try to change others and accept the differences in people
• Life in general seems easier and you let yourself “play”
• You are accountable for yourself and no longer blame others
• You practice “gratitude” and “acceptance” on a daily basis
• You are able to model healthy behaviors to your children

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Grateful in Gardena

Thursday, July 2nd, 2009
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A client emailed me a thank you letter after completing 26 classes at our Gardena location.

Hi Shannon,

My name is K. D. on Saturday the 26th I finally finished my anger management classes all 26 of them! For the last 19 of them I was counseld by Madolyn in Gardena. I would just like to express to you what an asset that I think she is to Daybreak. Madolyn is a very kind and caring person. She was eager to know me and my situations in life that had ultimately led to the outburst that got me in trouble, something which had never happened to me before. I never really understood certain things about myself untill my time at daybreak spent with Madolyn, She referred to things in my past as demons and because of her I have learned how to not let those demons make me angry anymore. She gave me the understanding that the abuse that I suffered as a child was not at all my fault and I knew that but never really understood untill the time I spent with her. She also taught me how to use empathy towards the ones who hurt me, and that it was absolutly them and not me . Madolyn is very professional also, she ran the class like a tight ship never letting anyone talk over her or one another. She always said please and thank you also and was never rude. She would not focus on just one person or their issue either, the hour that most people did was equal to each of us. When it was just her and I she gave all of her time and thoughts to me listening and then asking me questions and giving me her feedback, I learned a lot about myself during those 19 classes and she made me realize that I am the most important thing in my life I cannot say that I wont ever get angry, but I can say with the tools that Madolyn left me with and the memory of her kind soul I will do my best.

Thank you Shannon and Madolyn at Daybreak and I have closed that chapter in my book!!

Always K.

Warm weather and aggression

Wednesday, July 1st, 2009
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By Geoff Lowe

Getting hot under the collar

Do our tempers flare when the temperature rises? Here are some reports on the effects of weather on human behaviour.

When the weather turns hot, tempers start to flare, and violent crime rates go up. This is a commonsense view, but one that contradicts several laboratory studies that attempt to explain how temperature affects aggression.

Now, American researchers using data from city streets have come down on the side of common sense.
Laboratory experiments have shown that hotter temperatures do indeed provoke anger and aggression – but only up to a point. At around 85 degrees Fahrenheit, aggression becomes a less important motivator of behaviour than does just getting out of the heat.

But outside the lab, things may happen differently, say the researchers who monitored the number of criminal assaults reported to the Chicago police department daily from June through August. They also noted the average temperatures on those days.

Elsewhere, others were counting the number of aggression-anger’ crimes (rape and murder) and nonaggression-anger’ crimes (robbery and arson) recorded in the Houston Chronicle newspaper and charting the maximum daily temperature.
In both cities the number of aggressive, violent crimes increased as the temperature rose – well past the point at which lab studies predicted that aggressive tendencies would decrease. Nonaggressive crimes did not appear to be related to changes in temperature.

Why this contradiction between street life and the laboratory? The researchers speculate that since high temperatures are more obvious in the lab, people may attribute their aggressive feelings to the heat and then overcompensate by trying to calm down.

This does not prove that more heat causes more violence, the researchers caution. But their results show that temperature does not always affect aggression the way psychologists thought it did.

In Britain, of course, we don’t get too many hot days. However, we do get some very warm spells now and again. During such times, certain changes in behaviour are noticeable. Firstly, more people are out and about: and secondly, there is more beer drinking going on. These could be significant factors. But I haven’t yet been able to find anyone who’s been willing to stay inside and analyze the daily aggressive crime rates.

However, the practical experience of police and ambulance crews frequently confirms that heat plus
drinking (alcohol) equals aggression. Many officers agree that the warmth may be less responsible for trouble than the drinking which the hot days (and nights) have encouraged.
“Heat does encourage people to drink,” said one police inspector. “They set out in good spirits, drink too much and get over-exuberant. Then tempers fray and the police have more work to do.

When I was on the beat I disliked working on a warm night because I knew more people would be staying out drinking, instead of going home.”

Putting it down to the weather

Keep a weather eye open and you’ll find it easier to get on with people, say other psychologists who have been investigating more general effects of weather on human behaviour.

They found that the best time to make up after a quarrel is just after a storm. People tend to be more friendly during this period, when the temperature is starting to normalize. And the ideal time to fill in your income tax form is when it is moderately cold and windy. That sort of weather is fine for brainwork, say the psychologists at Baylor University College, Houston, Texas.

The physical stresses put on the body by heat, cold, wind and rain apparently have a considerable effect on our humour and efficiency. One of the most trying times for human relationships is said to be during the few hours before a storm, when the reduced atmospheric pressure slows circulation of the blood which is carrying oxygen to the brain. This makes people irritable and depressed.

During the lull before a storm, hospitals are often busier than usual. Ill people get worse, unbalanced people are more likely to become violent, and more women nearing childbirth go into labour.

It is the worst time for practical jokes, but the psychologists found that when a storm is over and conditions are cooler, people reach a peak of good humour. That is also an ideal time for salesmen. People are more receptive to sales talk, less critical and more likely to buy things they cannot really afford.

Moderate cold is mentally stimulating. The researchers found that there were nearly 20 per cent more examination passes in April and November than in June and July.

Perhaps the strangest effect that the unpredictable British weather has on people is that the vast majority of our everyday conversations are dominated by references to the weather.

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