Without anger, it is hard to reclaim our own voice of which we were robbed in the interest of consensus reality-Patrick Carnes Ph.D

Growing up many of us were taught not to feel. Our feelings, although genuine and accurate were too much for our families to handle. Our feelings exposed the abnormality in those around us, so we were told to stuff them or lead to beleive that our feelings were not accurate.

Feelings of rage and anger are natural and healthy. They act as barometers, measuring the temprature of the world around us.

If our barometers are broken we may have the tendency to over react or sometimes minimize. Emotional Intelligence is the ability to identify and express your own feelings and recognize the feelings in others.

An anger management class should not focus on eliminating anger but help you respond with the correct levels of anger at the right time and with the right person.

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Keith Davis drove his pickup truck into a crowd of war protester in June of 2008. Mr. Davis was sentenced to probation and ordered take take an anger management class.

Davis expressed in an interview that he was only exercising his First Amendment right of self-expression as he drove slowly onto the shoulder of the highway and displayed his middle finger to each person protesting. He said he felt the protesters were “un-American.”

Mr. Davis is certainly entitled to his views but his expression of them represent a style of communication that is to say the least aggressive.

Anger Management courses do not teach people to “hold their peace”. In fact and anger management class encourages individuals to share there feelings and thoughts in an assertive manner that is non-threatening. This is the best way to communicate your point if you want others to hear you.

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Educational Background of the Candidates

We need to be educated as to what type of education our next President and Vice President has:

If you were The Boss… which team would you hire?

With America facing historic debt, multiple war fronts, stumbling health care, a weakened dollar, all-time high prison population, skyrocketing Federal spending, mortgage crises, bank foreclosures, etc. etc., this is an unusually critical election year.

Let’s look at the educational background of the candidates and see what they bring to the job:

Obama:
Occidental College – Two years.
Columbia University – B.A. political science with a specialization in international relations.
Harvard – Juris Doctor (J.D.) Magna Cum Laude

& Biden:
University of Delaware – B.A. in history and B.A. in political science.
Syracuse University College of Law – Juris Doctor (J.D.)

vs.
McCain:
United States Naval Academy -20Class rank 894 out of 899 (meaning that, like George Bush, McCain was at the bottom of his class)
Palin:
Hawaii Pacific University – 1 semester
North Idaho College – 2 semesters – general study
University of Idaho – 2 semesters – journalism
Matanuska-Susitna College – 1 semester
University of Idaho – 3 semesters – B.A. in journalism

Now, which team are you going to hire to lead the most influential nation in the world?
This is just something else for consideration.

By Karina Narduzzi, B.A., C.A.M.F

As parents we must always be aware that our children are watching what we do. We are, in fact, the primary learning source for our children. We teach our kids how to deal with their anger and stress. It is in fact a learned behavior. If a child learns negative ways of dealing with anger or stress it must be cogitively relearned in a better way. The most successful way to do this is through a cognitive based anger management class.

Parents that behave in a negative way will communicate to their children that those negative actions are ok. These behaviors may include: yelling, throwing things, cussing, being disrespectful towards others, etc. Negative examples of communication may also teach our children that the world is not safe, that adults cannot be trused, and honesty and respect are not valued.

On the other hand, if a parent communicates in a postive way they will get a postive result. one example is, by working together as a family a parent communicates cooperation. Discussing news and events will communicate citzenship. A parent that tells the truth will communicate to their children that it is important to be honest. By showing our kids by example is the results that we will end up with.

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If you are like most of us your anger has caused a great deal of pain in loved ones and friends. Our immediate reaction is to feel some guilt for hurting the people closet to us, but all to often we absolve ourselves to quickly. We gives ourselves a pass and blame it on the stress of the day or even criticize the victim for making us angry. We forgive ourselves and expect others to forgive us.

When we fail to live in the mess we make we have a tendency to minimize our behavior. We don’t give ourselves the opportunity to really look at the person we have become and the damage we have caused.

I am not suggesting you become a masochist. I don’t expect you to consistently hit yourself over the head with your own mistakes, but you should “think the anger through.” Concentrate on how your anger has caused you problems in your life. Allow yourself to remain in your guilt a little longer.

One of the major problems for people with anger management issues is that they are not in touch with their feelings. Allowing yourself to feel your own guilt builds the capacity for empathy. When you begin to connect with the feelings of others you are less likely to hurt them.

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Source: CBC News
09/05/08

Mandatory stress and anger management workshops for police officers are among the eight recommendations of a Burnaby, B.C., coroner’s jury probing the case of a teenager whom police shot to death in a stolen vehicle.

New Westminster police Const. Todd Sweet shot and killed Kyle Tait, 16, in 2005. Police said the stolen SUV Tait was riding in was ramming Sweet’s cruiser at the time of the shooting.

The inquest heard from many witnesses, including Sweet, some of his fellow officers and the jailed driver of the stolen vehicle, who said he felt responsible for his friend’s death.

The jury – two women and three men – deliberated five hours on Friday.

Their other recommendations included installing video cameras in all police cruisers, and mandatory annual sight and hearing tests for officers. They also recommended the immediate reassignment of any officer involved in a lethal force shooting or causing bodily harm.

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One of the hardest lessons to teach students in an anger management class is to take ownership of how they react to others. Anger is often a response to a external stimuli. Somone cut you off on the freeway, you spilled coffee on your new dress, your spouse is late again.

These external stimuli are also called triggers. Triggers are those things that seem to be able to pull your puppet strings.

In response to these external triggers we may make assumptions about what has happened to us. For instance the person who cut us off on the freeway thinks we are weak, or your spouse is late because he/she is seeing someone else. This type of dialogue is called an internal trigger (things we says to ourselves about our circcumstances)

No matter what your triggers are, you have the choice in how you will react to a given situation. You are not a puppet doomed to respond to the whims of a puppet master. You can create your own destiny.

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