Miami Heat point guard Smush Parker has been accused of misdemeanor battery. Parker, who started his career as an undrafted free agent with the Cleveland Cavaliers, allegedly twisted a female parking lot attendants arm over a $12 dollar debt. The 26 year old basketball player thought he had paid the $12 the night before and got physical with the 41 year old parking lot attendant Yomara McKenzie.

“He has not been suspended and is currently on our inactive list,” Heat coach Riley said in the statement. “This is a legal matter and we will have no further comment until the legal process runs its course.”

Parker, who signed a 2 year $4.7 million dollar contract with Miami in the off season, didn’t accompany the team for its game at Boston Friday night.

McKenzie’s lawyer is seeking damages “for assault and battery, seeking compensatory and punitive damages.”

The holidays often bring family members together who maybe haven’t seen much of each other throughout the year. Old resentments and grievances can often emerge, sometimes with strained or even disasterous consequences. Many families find themselves time-stressed with holday preparations and activities which lower coping ability even further.

The following five tips have been found useful to help you deal with that inevitable holdiay stress:

1. Watch carefully the amount of alcohol you consume. Many anger management students confess that excessive drinking definitely contributed to family conflict and aggression.

2.Reduce stress by managing your time carefully and not over-scheduling yourself. Take time for yourself.

3. Adjust your expectations of family members. No, Aunt Irene hasn’t changed since last year. Tell yourself that you only have to see her once a year- you can cope with it.

4. Work on forgiveness skills. Let old resentments go. Holding grudges hurts you more than your relatives.

5. Develop better empathy skills. Try to see the world from the viewpoint of irritating family members and you may be shocked at how your anger dissipates.

For more tips on how to deal with angry feelings or the angry behavior of others, visit The Anger Coach Website.

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Evidence Based principals in the field of criminal justice is a fairly new development. Probation departments, courts and prison institutions across the globe are coming into alignment. After years of Meta Analysis authorities are coming to the conclusion that a systematic deployment of proven rehabilitation principles must be adopted.

In an effort to manage anger, Daybreak Counseling Service addresses eight major risk factors for clients who participate in aggressive and violent acts.

1. Antisocial Attitudes
2. Antisocial Peers
3. Antisocial Personality
4. History of antisocial behavior
5. Family
6. Education/Employment
7. Substance Abuse

Antisocial attitudes have been found to be a barrier to effective anger management. For many clients aggression and violence supports their value system. If clients are not challenged to adopt prosocial attitudes clients may exit an anger management class as better communicators. They may learn the ability to manage stress and identify emotions but they will most often add these new skills to their arsenal of antisocial behavior.

While teaching effective anger management techniques anger management instructors should ensure that the environment is supportive of change. Those clients who voice anti social opinions should be immediately challenged and redirected.

Anger Management instructors should be attentive listeners in an effort to identify pro-criminal or antisocial attitudes, values and beliefs in their clients. Anti-social attitudes can be explored and challenged through the use of motivational interviewing.

Antisocial attitudes may be obvious if the client expresses the following:

Pride in delinquent behavior
Close association with anti social peers
An enormous disdain for the law, law enforcement and the criminal justice system
Justification for criminal activity

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Listed below are the 8 Tools of Anger Control featured in the popular client workbook, “Anger Management for the Twenty-First Century” by Ari Novick, LMFT and Tony Fiore, Ph.D. Learing these tools can help to reduce anger symptoms and help improve relationships. Participants of our anger management programs learn these 8 tools!
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Tool One — Dealing with stress. This tool teaches skills in effective stress management strategies to help reduce physical, mental and emotional signs of stress.

Tool Two — Empathy Development. Teaches skills in emotional intelligence and empathy. Empathy is the ability to feel what another person feels. Empathy skills reduce anger responses.

Tool Three — Respond instead of React. Teaches ways to deal with situations using better judgement and impulse control. Not reacting to situations can often be a valuable tool in dealing with difficult situations or people.

Tool Four — Change Self-Talk. Changing self-talk can help us become more positive as well as develop more positive outcomes in our lives. Proven techniques and methods explored

Tool Five — Assertive Communication — An exploration of harmful communication styles and a detailed disscussion of the effectiveness of being assertive. Training in expressing feelings and needs.

Tool Six — Adjust Those Expectations. Managing expectations can help reduce frustation. Clients are exposed to 5 skills for managing expectations more effectively

Tool Seven — Forgive, but don’t forget. This chapter explores effective ways for forgiving others while not giving up your rights as a person.

Tool Eight — Retreat and Think Things Over. This chapter explores the “freeze frame” technique as well as the concept of “staying in the box” to calm down.

Participants of our anger management programs learn these 8 tools!

AJ Novick Group- Anger Management
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Contact: Ari Novick, Ph.D.
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About the Author: Ari Novick, Ph.D. is founder of the AJ Novick Group. He is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and expert in the field of anger and stress management. Dr. Novick is also a corporate consultant and educator who has presented on-site corporate workshops and trainings to thousands of employees. To view his anger management websites visit www.ajnovickgroup.com or www.angerclassonline.com

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There is a great deal of talk about investments these days. The real estate crash is threatening to effect the global economy and investors are being very careful where they put their time and money.

In my limited years I’ve found a sure investement. An investment that reaps a bountiful return. That investment is in people. No you will not find a “people” symbol onf on the New York Stock exchange, but people are not hard to find. They are everywhere. Look around you, an investment is standing behind you in the grocery store line. An investment is sleeping in your bed. I dropped off one of my most promising investments at school this morning.

Yesterday I had to the chance to cash in one of my long term investments.

I was a 26 year old first year graduate student when I started investing in Jerome. (pictured below)

He was a 16 year old foster child and lived in a Los Angeles group home for boys. As an intern I was required to counsel Jerome along with his housemates a couple of times a week but I invested a little more.

10 years later I received a phone call from Sergeant Jerome Exum. He explained to me he had served in the Navy for the past 8 years and he tracked me down on the internet. He had traveled the world and just wanted to thank me for the investment I made into his life.

Ching Ching…no he did not write me a check but he did make a deposit in which I can make an unlimited withdrawl.

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In the summer of 1981 air traffic controllers around the naiton went on strike. The strike lasted two days at that point then President Ronald Regan fired them. Over 12,000 air traffic controllers were out of a job and new hires replaced them. 25 years later these new hires are retiring, almost all at once.

The retirements in conjuction with a new labor contract the FAA finds itself a little short on controllers.

Like many high pressure jobs, where the lives of 100’s rely on quick and accurate decision making the life of an air traffic controller can be to say the least stressful.

“We got controllers that are fatigued. We got them working longer times on position, longer workdays, longer work weeks, less breaks in between, and operational errors are on the rise,” said Patrick Foray, president of the National Air Traffic Controllers Association. “We haven’t had any major accidents. Well, all the signs are leading up to the fact that we’re going to.”

Stress has been identified as a principle factor in acts of aggression and violence. If individuals are able to manage there anger within a work enviroment the anger is often manifested in their personal life.

An anger management course can teach effective ways to manage stress and prevent verbal and physical aggression. Any professional who is involved in a high pressure occupation owes it to himself/herself and the public to seek help for behavior management.

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After six years as a loyal Anderson and Anderson anger management provider starting in January 2008 Daybreak Counseling Service is taking the opportunity to explore exciting and established avenues in which to provide quality anger management classes.

Daybreak Counseling Service would like to thank those who have spent countless hours of mentoring our agency in the field of Anger Management Education.

There are currently no state or federal laws that regulate anger management certification training or providers. Therefore Daybreak Counseling Service will continue to provide court approved anger management courses to it’s many clients.

Thank you for your continued support of Daybreak Counseling Service,

“The Dawning of A New Day”

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Daybreak Counseling Service, the leader in anger management education and anger management classes moves to incorporate evidence – based practices within its anger management course curriculum.

A growing amount of literature confirms that in addition to targeting specified behaviors such as aggression, drug use, alcohol abuse and other criminal behavior the criminogenic needs of offenders must be addressed. Although anger itself is not a crime it is often a present factor in crimes against another person such as battery, domestic violence, criminal threats and assault.

Anger Management classes teach individuals how to manage stress, communicate effectively, and develop emotional intelligence but such classes do not address the motivation of clients especially if they are court ordered.

Individuals who exhibit chronic acts of anger and aggression often receive great rewards for their behavior. Such behavior may reinforce their status in their community and reinforces their own vision of themselves.

In an effort to manage anger eight major risk factors for the clients must be addressed.

1. Antisocial Attitudes
2. Antisocial Peers
3. Antisocial Personality
4. History of antisocial behavior
5. Family
6. Education/Employment
7. Substance Abuse.

Anger Management classes are not psychotherapy but an educational model in managing anger. Through cognitive instruction rather than process groups clients can be made aware of the above risk factors that may prevent reduced aggression. An effective anger management course should provide referrals to address multiple needs of the clients as well as provide an after care program to support the clients growth.

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Law Enforcement personnel such as police officers, probation officers and national gaurds are often placed in dangerous and stressful situtations in which use of force is needed. The way in which law enforcement personnel manages anger is often a matter of life and death.

Non -Peace officers such as sercuity gaurds, body gaurds, boxers and the average citizen who may be involved in a physical altercation or self defense also benefit from evolved anger management skills.

Those who teach use of force techniques speak of a gradual level of force that can be applied in an effort to de-esculate or subdue a subject. The earlier levels of use of force incorporate many skills often taught in an anger management class.

Level One

Personnel Presence: The presence of a person can prevent and deter from an assault from happening to another patron by the person running, standing, walking towards an attacker . By using simple body language and gestures that are non-threatening you deal with the situation.
Anger management classes teach participant to be aware of there body language. Heavy breathing, a flushed face, and clinched fists are pronounced physical signals of anger.

Level Two

Communication: Used with presence, the use of the voice can usually achieve the desired results. Words can be whispered, used normally, or shouted to be effective. The content of the message is as important as your demeanor. It’s always best to start out calm but firm and non-threatening. Choice of words and intensity can be increased as necessary or used in short commands in serious situations. The right combination of words in combination with presence can de-escalate a tense situation and prevent the need for a physical altercation.

When angry we can exhibt a number of communication styles: Passive Communication, Aggressive Communication and Passive aggressive communication are not helpful when dealing with conflict. Anger Management courses encourage clients to participate in assertive communication.

Participants in an anger management course are encouraged to defend themselves. Their are occassions when physical aggression is manadated. When your saftey or the saftey of a loved one is jeapordized physical force may be neccessary.

Norm Bettencourt a tactical self defense expert describes three physical levels of self defense:

Level Three

Control Holds & Tactics: Certain situations may arise where words alone does not reduce the aggression. At this level, minimal force would involve the use of bare hands to guide, hold, and restrain a patron. This does not include offensive moves such as punching, tackling, and choking. Pain compliance holds could apply here, but only after ordinary holds fail to control an aggressive patron

Level Four

Chemical Agents: Sometimes when the suspect is violent or threatening, more extreme, but non-deadly measures must be used in defense to bring the suspect under control or affect an arrest. Before moving to level four, it is assumed that other less physical measures had been tried or was deemed inappropriate. When used by surprise, pepper spray and tear gas is an excellent distraction, allowing the security officer time to get away, call the police, or subdue the suspect.

Level Five

Temporary Incapacitation: To use force under level five means that the situation was so extreme, violent, and immediate that it was necessary to temporarily incapacitate a suspect prior to arrival of the police. This includes the use of all methods of non-deadly force beginning with the empty hand up through and including impact tools. At level five, properly used defensive and offensive moves are allowed under the right circumstances. Choke holds and carotid neck holds can be used, but at great risk. Although still taught at many police academies, neck compressions are very risky and used only in extreme situations.

Level Six

Deadly Force: When you are in immediate fear of death or great bodily injury at the hands of a perpetrator you are authorized to use deadly force in most cases. Check your state & provincial laws to be sure. Deadly force can be applied by your hands, impact tools, or with a firearm. There are no rules, other than negligence, for applying deadly force when it’s justified. However, deadly force is the highest standard and must be justified.

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Daybreak Counseling Service has provided quality anger management classes, anger managemet courses and seminars in Los Angeles County for the past 6 years. Daybreak has had the opportunity to serve corporate agencies, individiual families, including couples and adolscents as well as non-profit organizations.

Recently Daybreak Counseling Service has provided anger management consulting and anger management services to various individuals in the entertainment field. These interactions include My Network T.V.’s reality show “Decision House”, clients from Interscope Records and MTV.

Anger Management is a growing field and at the moment has no regulatory agency to provide quality assurance for hundreds of providers. Anger Management providers range in education and experience level. Daybreak Counseling Service only contracts with instructors who hold a Masters Degree or more.

We currently offer anger management courses in Gardena, Pasadena, Van Nuys, Santa Monica and Long Beach. Each instructors has a Master’s Degree in either Social Work, Education or Public Administration.

Daybreak Counseling Service is a certified Anderson and Anderson anger management provider and its owner is a member of AAAMP (American Association of Anger Management Providers)

Daybreak anger management classes are easily accessible and convenient. An anger management course is offered daily in at least one of our five locations. We also provide a 6 hour accelerated anger management courses for those with busy schedules.

In an effort to address the national need for anger management we also provide nation-wide telephone coaching.

For more information contact use an speak to a representative.

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