Anger Management and your Emotions
Those who the Gods would destroy,first they would make angry-
Greek Proverb
Anger is a secondary emotion. This means there is usually an underlying emotion that precedes it. Frustration, jealousy, insecurity and most often pain are emotions that use anger as a cloak. To escape detection, these emotions hide like roaches behind a wall of anger. Do not be deceived into thinking that the only emotion you need to address is your anger. Often anger is just a symptom of greater emotional distress. If these emotions are not addressed they begin to eat away at your insides. Many of these emotions are just too painful to experience. In an effort to block the pain many people build a wall of anger around them. If anyone gets close to activating sensitive and tender emotions, the angry individual can put on an impressive shield of rage and aggression. Often this shield pushes people away and the angry person’s suspicions are confirmed: “People can’t be trusted.” and “No one loves me.” They begin to use their anger in an effort to keep people at a distance, to avoid getting hurt. In forth coming posts, we will examine a few of these painful emotions and how they may initiate an angry and defensive attitude in you.
