Anger Management Techniques-Living in the mess you made

If you are like most of us your anger has caused a great deal of pain in loved ones and friends. Our immediate reaction is to feel some guilt for hurting the people closet to us, but all to often we absolve ourselves to quickly. We gives ourselves a pass and blame it on the stress of the day or even criticize the victim for making us angry. We forgive ourselves and expect others to forgive us.

When we fail to live in the mess we make we have a tendency to minimize our behavior. We don’t give ourselves the opportunity to really look at the person we have become and the damage we have caused.

I am not suggesting you become a masochist. I don’t expect you to consistently hit yourself over the head with your own mistakes, but you should “think the anger through.” Concentrate on how your anger has caused you problems in your life. Allow yourself to remain in your guilt a little longer.

One of the major problems for people with anger management issues is that they are not in touch with their feelings. Allowing yourself to feel your own guilt builds the capacity for empathy. When you begin to connect with the feelings of others you are less likely to hurt them.

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