Anger Management Classes and the big bad Bully
A bully is defined as a person who relentlessly persecutes,
Intimidates or tyrannizes other people.
Many anger management class studens can trace their ongoing anger or low self-esteem to being bullied as a child. This awareness leads to healing and becomes a tool for better anger management.
Bullies are driven by fear and anger. They can be both emotionally and physically abusive. Their behavior often compensates for their feelings of inferiority and self-contempt. Bullies tend to be hotheaded and impulsive. They lack empathy and have a positive attitude towards violence. Usually having been the victim of abuse themselves, they lash out at others. It is one of the most atrocious expressions of inner rage.
Victims of bullies suffer long-range physical and emotional consequences. Victims are at great risk of depression and low self-esteem. They are prone to physical ailments, loneliness, fear, unhappiness and loss of confidence. As adults they are often likely to engage in aggression and criminality. Victims, as adults, often live with anxiety and rage and are more likely to turn to alcohol and drugs to medicate their ongoing emotional pain.
We now know that this phenomenon (although historically related to childhood) is prominent among adults. And – it is one the rise. One in seven adults reports being the victim of a bully at some time in their life.
The news is filled with stories of bullying in the workplace, marriages, politics, gangs and even the internet (cyberbullying).
Most of us have encountered a bully at some time in our lives. Adult bullies are cruel, controlling, arrogant, manipulative, demeaning, and have the emotional maturity of a five-year-old.
Successful strategies for dealing with a bully include:
Keeping your cool
Avoidance (when possible)
Maintain your confidence
Stay on track