Anger as Energy
Chinese medicine sees emotions such as anger simply as energy. Many have a problem directly expressing their anger and instead use it to manipulate others. Yet, if we could use this powerful but negative emotion as an ally we could propel ourselves in our own self-development towards becoming healthier beings.
There is always a reason behind our anger. Anger is always associated with something we need to recognize for ourselves, it may not necessarily be about the situation or person that evoked the anger. Experiencing anger is almost always an indication that on some level we are not meeting a personal need that we may have. We must all learn to take responsibility for our emotions, including anger. No one can make us feel angry. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No one can make you feel inferior [or angry or sad] without your permission.” Anger is simply energy that can serve as our personal jet fuel. Anger serves its purpose by exposing what needs adjustment in out lives. It is communicating to us that there is something we want that we don’t yet know how to achieve. Next time you get angry say to yourself, “ My inner guidance is working. This is good. What is it I want here? What do I want to have happen here? Once you can get clear with this you will be able to make the appropriate adjustments in your life. Anger is only dangerous if we handle it in maladaptive ways, i.e.: denying it, stuffing it or lashing out at someone else. It can also be dangerous if we turn it in at ourselves causing depression. Next time you discover you are angry take a time out, and be with just yourself. Sit with the discomfort. Move around. Breath. Yell. Love yourself for having the feeling. Then ask yourself, “ What do I need?” Wait for the answer. Your anger maybe well justified but if you hold on to the anger far too long you will only bring harm to others and or yourself. The bottom line is, you have to decide if you want to be justified or healthy and happy! Let the anger subside and ask for what you need with kindness. Then when you get it, say “Thank you.” Gratitude is another powerful and positive energy- ally that helps us squash many negative emotions.